Of course I don't! I am happy to share exactly what this is all about.
The topic of "how" is always the awkward part of the conversation when I talk about having a baby. What exactly does it involve? Well it might help by defining what all of the the different terms are that you will hear.
Generally speaking this group of terms are considered artificial insemination, whether from a known or unknown donor or fresh or frozen sperm. These may be used with or without fertility medications depending on specific needs.
ICI - Intracervical Insemination
This involves placing (usually with a small needleless syringe) the sperm inside the vagina into/superclose to the cervix. The cervix is the opening that separates your vagina from the uterus. Hey, that might seem TMI but I didn't know exactly what it was until I started this process myself. This is the process that most closely describes how you can do it at home.
IUI - Intrauterine Insemination
This one involves "washing" the sperm so that it is only sperm and not ejaculate. The sperm are then placed using a syringe attached to a thin catheter directly into the uterus. Many women take advantage of this option before trying in vitro if fertility issues are unexplained, or for example in order for sperm to travel through the cervix to the uterus a woman must have fertile mucus. If she does not the sperm are most likely being killed before they ever even make it to the uterus. Another example could be sperm that don't live long enough to make the swim through the cervix. This is the method that I am doing at the doctor's office. It has a slightly higher success rate than ICI.
IVF - In Vitro Fertilization
This is when the woman's eggs are removed and then fertilized outside of the body. The fertilized eggs are then reintroduced. This is by far the most invasive and expensive procedure.
There you go! Now you know.
Round #1 for me was ICI at home
Round #2 IUI at the doctor office with an hCG trigger shot that made me bat shit crazy
Round #3 IUI at the doctor office this morning, without the trigger shot just waited for the good old fashion positive Ovulation Predictor Kit and other signs.
Now? Cross your fingers and wait! I look forward to more of your questions. Remember you can email them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.